The ultimate provoker: Backstabbing

I hate to do this. Meaning saying bad things about others. But if I don’t complain, I might burst, and on the way, hurt others even more.

It’s nearly 13th Friday. Yet, it is a frustrating and hair-tearing day for me. The day started rather smoothly and peacefully, until the career counselling tutorial class. There’s this section where we discuss our questions together-gether. As always, me and ma bunch of friends are the ones who speak out and answer the questions, in a quirky way tho. During the session, while we are joking away, this particular guy will eventually come up with his extremely, astonishingly, damn lame jokes….creating an anti-climax everytime we are having fun. If u say I am a crapper, then that guy must be a total crap. His effort is just soooo lame(crows flying around us)…sometimes I just wish that I can beat him up or he jz being kick outta of our course. I was pissed anyway. He was like spoiling the atmosphere on every afford, in every moment.

Then came the results of our mid-term test. And, unexpectedly, my course rep gets 30 upon 30 for it. Ok, well, congrats, proud of him. Eventually, during the whole discussion, where we were evaluating what went wrong, he just cant stop saying that “I can’t believe I got full marks”, and something like “I m gonna ask the lecturer, I think I got problem, will u believe it? I got full marks!!” and “Hey, I cant believe it! I got this question correct! I am just guessing, u noe?” and yada yada yada….repeatedly. My, I was like “ Cant u just shut up? Am trying to concentrate, and u are back there bragging about ur results. Get on with life! The whole world knows that!”. Of course, Iwas just THINKING out loud. But still, its just frustrating.

And to make matter worse, the OO nite rehearsal was cancelled, after we wait there for at least 1 hour. Reason? The finalist cant get their costumes. Wow. Talking about attitude. We committees have to rush for our clothes for the evening, and they are here asking whether are there any coats and blazers to be lend to them for their purpose. Speaking about being bossy.

And so it happens, there is a power shortage in the hostel and the college. On THIS day. On this particular day, where everything went…erm…not-so-right. Then met old friend, Christine. Sigh. This is gonna be a looooong and never –ending story.

Met her on the way home, she asked about a ticket to OO Nite, gave her. Asked why is she here, she says she wanna do assignment. She was complaining about the power shortage. I sympathized. Then asked about OO Nite whether there are many leng chais around, wanna go tackle some. I sed there is a appropriate number of them. I ask instead of hanging around with nothing to do since it’s a power shortage, why don’t go and visit Denise and Cynthia. She sed she don noe them well. Fine. I cant have her in my room, coz maybe my roommate wont like it. Well, she started asking about how handsome my roommate looks like. I sed he is just the nerdy type(soory roomie…)…and jokingly sed she was hiao(horny). She replied at least she wasn’t lesbian. Went off our way.

Later, we are suppose to have dinner. Due to power shortage, I suggested we go early. So, called Denise and Cyn and Thomas. Then received her msg, saying:
“wei..come out teman me la. Dam sian la. Like so hai oni sit here alon. Come out la.”

I sed ok fine, we are going for dinner anyway.

So, met her sitting alone. Told her that we are going to dinner early. She sed have to wait Thomas came back from class, and teman her to TBR. I explained that he will meet us there. Asked why don’t u join us go there and meet him. She insisted that she wanted to wait. I told her for the 2nd time that I already called Thomas, which he sed that he will meet us there, this time in a louder voice. She became bengang and told me the same thing and tell me to go if u want to. I sed fine.

After Denise and Cyn is done, we are set. Asked her again, whether she wanna go with us…and she showed her sourly face, and asked what about Thomas, and started complaining I shouted at her. I was pissed(again). First, I don’t shout at people with no reason. Second, I suggested that we met Thomas at TBR, easier for him, for the third time. She insisted tat he will come back here to hostel and accompany her. I sed ok. What I din hear, was that, she sed: “ Fuck off, fucker!” which later Denise and Thomas told me.

THAT was the situation.

Her version? Wow. I am impressed with HER version to Thomas.

Later, Thomas came to our table. I asked what she sed about the situation. Eventually, this is a draft on what she sed to Thomas:

“Sin Eu scold me chau hai, cibai and ma hai. He shouted at me. He sed that I am hiao because I wanted to ride on your motor…and bla bla bla.”

Hmm…I am totally dumbstruck when Thomas told me that. Let me make some clarifications:

First, I said rude words because whenever I am crapping with others. I don’t usually scold rude words when I am in a serious situation, unless u totally pissed me off.

Second, I don’t scold people chau hai. I don’t use that word. I am not used to that word. I don’t say rude words in Cantonese, except for so hai, which I describe people as stupid.

Third, I don’t scold females with rude words. I did say rude word in front of them, but scolding them with rude words is a disgrace of myself.

Fourth, I am usually frank. I don’t tell lies or backstab people, because I noe the feeling of being backstabbed.

Fifth, I don’t quarrel, or shout at people, for some minor reasons. I am reasonable. I always hold back anger. The worst I did when I am angry, usually, is complaining to my blog and TFK-ing.

As for Christine’s words, I am disappointed. Totally disappointed. Claiming that she is the child of God and Jesus, she did something worse then just lying . If her attitude causes our friendship to be sour, I am fine. But what makes me seriously turned off, was her act of trying to exaggerate a situation and backstabbing others, and trying to ruin other friendships.

This I do not forgive, and usually, I sed usually, will never.

Signed off.